A very close artist friend talks about a serious Tinder date and period sex.
Sorry Katsushika Hokusai, I tried to draw The Great Wave off Kanagawa. Hope you will forgive me.
Day 25 of 100 Indian Tinder Tales
“I am 2-1/2 days into my period but want to call him over. In the afternoon it seems like I can manage it. By manage I mean it isn’t a torrential flow, just a light and mild drizzle. But I am still worried.
So I message my best friend for a quick discussion, like I do before making any important decisions in life.
“I like him and we want to do it. But I am chumming, is it a bit much for the first time?”
“Period sex is best sex. Pro tip: Just put a dark towel on the bed. Go for it, babe!”
She goes onto tell me a story of someone who had period sex ending with, “You are naturally lubricated.” Adding again, “Period sex is the best sex.”
I call him and he agrees to come. There is a tacit agreement this is about sex or so I think.
I message her again.
“Whoa! That’s my girl! Keep the towel ready.”
“Should I tell him I am chumming, I did mention yesterday.”
She says yes and tells me how I should have a shower just before I meet him. “It reduces the bleeding.”
I make mental notes and go online to read about period sex. To know what men think of period sex, dos and don’ts. Positions that work. Gravity and flow. Pregnancy and the period. An article I read, says that women are more squeamish about period sex than men. I like the way it ends – Men ejaculate. Women have periods. Both are messy and so is good sex.
I am convinced. I run for a shower, in the shower I feel I have been hit by the Great Wave off Kanagawa! I am bloody red. When I meet him, both my flow and my urge are unmanageable. We kiss hungrily. Undress hastily.
“Do you have a condom?”
“No, I have a period.”
“Then we will do what we do.”
We do what we do. He leaves. The next morning I wake up happy knowing that I don’t owe my body to anyone. That my boundaries of comfort are my own and I don’t need to explain. I don’t have to feel ashamed about the period or not being ‘available’ for sex. It is a step ahead for me.
For next time, I am keeping condoms ready. “