Day 59 of 100 Indian Tinder Tales
N, a traveller from Australia, talks about a surreal connection she had with an Indian man.
“I’ve used Tinder in more than five other countries but since I used it in India I haven’t used it since. I am a traveller and I recently visited India for the second time. I worked in Mumbai and had no friends at all. I was really lonely and I decided to use Tinder so that I could meet some nice people to become friends with. As I was swiping I came across someone that I had some mutual friends with.
He lived in a different city, a few hours away. He was the brother of someone I knew. I was excited because I knew that I could find out if he was a creep or not. My friends said he wasn’t. We began to message each other a lot. All day, everyday. I really enjoyed talking to him. He sent me a silly video and we exchanged silly videos until the morning when he called me and we talked for two hours.
We would talk on the phone for hours every night. I was nervous to meet him. What if he was different in person? I traveled to meet him one weekend. Hanging out with him was so easy, within the first ten minutes of meeting we were singing and dancing in his car.
After that meeting, we talked every night on the phone and on FaceTime when we were not together.
On our last time together I remember thinking that in a few hours I wouldn’t see him for a long time…I don’t know. A year? Maybe more? Ever again? Would it even be the same again?
It truly felt like it was slipping away from me. If he hadn’t given me his coat I wouldn’t believe it was real.
We talked for months after I left India. We don’t talk anymore. I still don’t know when I will stop being sad. I regret that I cried a lot when I was with him.
To be honest I think I will always be sad because I truly haven’t met someone like him before. We didn’t even get the opportunity to give it a try. And I am worried that anybody else that I meet might just seem like a faux version of him.”