Day 62 of 100 Indian Tinder Tales
S from Pune shares his tale.
(Also, I am inspired by Gustav Klimt today)
“Tinder isn’t a place where a girl gets in touch with an online person, first by ignoring, then gives in, replies back and then starts liking him, makes out and then the guy ditches her. It surely affects guys in equal numbers and at times in substantially worse ways.
This happened to me.
I wasn’t the kind of guy who’d indulge in any such ‘online hookup’ thingy but I had recently broken up and was in a sort of trauma. And one day, I heard about the hoo-ha around this app and decided to download. I set up a profile and started swiping. Within minutes I had a match – an IIT-KGP engineer who was a professional dancer. Pretty, very tall (just an inch shorter than me), plus her father was a big shot in a telecom company, also filthy rich.
We instantly hit it off, she asked for my number and that’s where Tinder’s role ended.
We spent a lot of time together, laughed, talked and really enjoyed ourselves. Had drinks and partied. Our choices matched and even the brand of cigs we smoked then and the cars we owned. Plus, she was impressed by me because I am a chef and I could make her favorite dish – Akami Sushi.
One day we had quite a bit of alcohol, were stoned as fuck and like always we were in her car. We had sex. The best sex I have ever had.
But I am an emotional fool or so it seems, getting attached to people pretty soon and then getting my ass kicked in the process and this was no different.
I proposed to her and expressed my love and she said she loved me too but then needed time to think about it as she had broken up recently. I was fine. Didn’t want to force her. We met. We drank, smoked up and made out wherever we could – elevators, car bonnets, in the woods, everywhere.
It seemed like things were going good but that wasn’t the case actually. One day, she ignored my texts, calls, everything. She even ignored my 24th birthday party where I really wanted her to come and she had promised she would. But didn’t.
She left me. Over a text message.
That memory is still fresh when she said she has had enough and broke all ties. All of them. And I shared this with my friend who called her up. She put us on conference, told me to go on mute and I got the answer. She was bored of me, she needed more fun and someone who matched her standards i.e. rich, the engineer kind not a chef (even though I work at a famous 5-star hotel), someone who matched her status. And that’s when I lost it.
I know it might seem like a rant but then the reason to share this is because that even though it was all clear and very transparent since the beginning, the girl never expressed concern over anything. What I also want to say is that it isn’t only girls who get hurt but guys do too. We share this despair, anguish you feel and a lot of times we can’t express it. We tend to appear strong but that doesn’t mean you take advantage or ignore the effort we put in.
Not generalising but online you find many interesting creatures but as my current girlfriend says, “The world is like shopping from eBay, every other product is as bad as the previous one but then it is luck which gets you a genuine or a fake brick in a box package.”